The difference in your girlfriend’s behavior between in-person interactions and video calls might stem from several factors. It’s possible that the less personal nature of video calls makes her feel less connected or secure, leading to increased sensitivity/insecurity. Video calls can sometimes feel less intimate or immediate than face-to-face conversations, which could explain why she might seem different.

Additionally, her request for you to initiate more conversations suggests she might feel that the emotional labor of maintaining the dialogue is unbalanced. This could contribute to her feeling underappreciated during calls, especially if she perceives your contributions as less engaging compared to hers.

To address this, try to find new topics to discuss that interest both of you, maybe sharing articles, books, or planning future activities together can spark more engaging conversations. Also, expressing more about your feelings, thoughts, and daily experiences can help, even if they seem mundane to you, sharing these can deepen your connection. Consider asking her more about her day, which can make her feel more loved. It’s also a good idea to discuss how you both prefer to communicate affection and ensure there’s a mutual understanding of each other’s communication styles. Drawing insights from “Wisdom and Reflection” can guide you in understanding the importance of communication and the different ways it can be expressed and received.